Sometimes we feel aggressive, angry, intolerant, fed up and overwhelmed. When this happens, we want to get rid of our anger, we say "I should keep this aggression out”. But the moment you begin to do that, you have already adopted an aggressive standpoint. By this point, one is so worked up and annoyed with one’s aggression that you can't stand it anymore, which is another form of aggression. The basic and most beneficial thing in these situations is for you to simply see it as being aggression. There is nothing wrong with it. It's part of the human situation. On top of that, you begin to acknowledge the fact that you are feeling aggressive and, instead of expressing blindly, you feel the aggression properly. You see how you feel when you feel aggressive. Then, gradually, try to accommodate that. Aggression can be accommodated. Once you begin to accommodate your aggression properly, then, the need to act aggressively would lessen.

By Ani Janchub Llhamo